Thought and Hi Rachel

Rachel Good evening tomcat. Its gauzy to meet you. Please call me Rachel. Tom Hi Rachel It is nigh(a) to meet you too. Rachel To start off wherefore dont you tell me a little bit well-nigh why you think you are here like a shot and what has been going on for you in your career. Tom I think I am here because my garter thinks I am a drunk. Maybe I am, exactly I piss a good reason. Rachel What is your reason? Tom Because my wife left me. We were married for 25 years, and she cheated. Rachel I am very forbidding to hear that Tom. I can understand how that would be hard to deal with. Tom it is horribleWhen I am up, I am thinking of her, thinking of her with someone else, and then drinking to make it go away. I am alone Rachel So would you say your drinking has increased since this relationship ended? Tom ummm. I guess it has probably more than a little. I mean the guys and I al ways had a few on sunday for football, you know. But sometimes I drink and I dont know why? Rachel Wou ld you say your alcohol use has affected your job at all, or other family or brotherly commitments? Tom Well I know I am sick and tired of being hungover in the morning and operating the crane.My family was my wife. we ran from family and our love was all we had. It made us strong but not strong enough apparently. Rachel Well we definately need to find you some better ways to cope with this. How would you get word your mood and how you prevail been feeling since this has happened? Tom My mood has been getting worse. Its like the worst has happened but I have this nagging feeling that something unbelievably horrible will follow it. My body also has these pain and aches and I have no idea where they came fromRachel Well it is definately normal to feel this way after such a stressful occurence in your life. Although it is hard to remain postive, it is important. Do you have any other incite in your life besides your wife? Anyone that you could talk to? Tom Well Jim. He is the on e who say I needed to manipulate a counsellor. He said I looked dissheveled. I trust him but I feeling like I am letting him down. Rachel Well that is good that you took Jims advice to come in and talk to someone. It can be very difficult to deal with something like this on your own.It is good to have social support in your life and someone who can be honest with you. Do you count yourself getting into a new relationship in the future? Tom I can cover that maybe I can move on but I am hurting. I have been too drunk to grieve Rachel Why do you think your wife cheated on you? Do you bear down this on yourself? Tom I never could give her brains and a body. I didnt have brains and my body is getting too old. She took off to the carribean with this lawyer. I wasnt good enough. Rachel Im sure there are plenty of great things about yourself. This is not something you should blame on yourself.I think once you put yourself out there you will see that many people will find you attractive inside and out. Challenging your negative thoughts in ways such as this is the first step to feeling better. You will prove your own negative thoughts premature and will begin to build a new more positive self-concept. I know right(a) now it may be too early to start dating but you should focus on other things you are good at or that you once enjoyed. Rachel I emergencyed to ask you a little about your family history. Is there anyone in your family that has suffered from depression or alcohol abuse? Tom My give drank alot.He was an angry drunk. His mother was sad alot of the time. She killed herself when my dad was 11 Rachel Im sorry to hear about that Tom. I want to make sure you know that it is normal to feel the way you do right now. I would withal suggest talking to your family doctor about taking an antidepressant to help you get back on your feet. It is not something you have to take forever but it can truly help to get your life back in perspective. Unfortunately we ar e out of time for today but I would really like to continue talking to you about this another time. Tom ok, thank you Rachel